Creating False Expectations For Clients
By far every agency on the internet claims to be the one which does the most to find the ideal partner for men. Of course, not every website is dishonest, but by far and large the majority are merely stating what the client wants to hear. Every man reading this article will agree when I say that it is virtually impossible to know who is truthful. Agencies claim they are presenting “marriage minded women” who are keen to marry foreign men. This creates the impression that most women in Russia will eagerly marry a man just because he is foreign and available. These same websites will further go on to assure the man that the woman is not marrying him for his money or a better life.
I recommend that a client always look at the advice these same agencies are giving their women. If an agency’s women’s site is presenting an image of wealth, splendour, luxury homes in Paris, Los Angeles and New York, ocean views and luxury shopping – Can that agency really be preparing the man and women for a happy marriage. The women are being told that she should marry a foreign man because of money and an easy lifestyle. The women are being encouraged to join solely because of the image and feel of the agency’s women’s website. This will create a false expectation in the woman’s mind.
The man on the other hand is expecting a lady who is interested in himself as a person and not the size of his bank account. This difference in expectations can lead to serious problems later in the relationship. Each partner will expect different things. The women will expect a life of opulence and luxury. The man will expect a relationship based love and respect. Problems will occur and they will recur.
It is important that any relationship be based on an honest understanding of what the other person needs and wants. Of course numerous agencies claim to have thousands of successful marriages as testimony to their intentions.
It is wrong for an agency to do this. When you meet your lady, spend some time to find out the kind of advice she has received from the agency. A good agency realises that a successful marriage comes not just from giving the man great service, it comes from also treating your future wife with respect and care. There is no excuse for not making the time to guide someone through this life changing event. By speaking to each partner regularly the agency can guide each person and make sure there are no disasters down the line. Do not go through all the trouble of creating a life for two, unless you know this is what you both want.
Agencies do not tell you that for every Russian woman who travels to the US in fiancé visa’s approximately 2 returns for a variety of reasons. Do not let your relationship join this statistic. Take the time to find an agency that will put you first. Find an agency that will treat you as a friend and not as a client.
Always remember that happiness is a journey and not a destination. By partnering with the right agency you can make this journey begin right now.
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