Tying the Knot During Vacation
Being in love and on vacation can be over stimulating even to those who are most sensible. When your body and mind gets a chance to relax, you might feel the urge to do something crazy, like getting married. Whether you’ve known your partner for a few weeks or a few years, when you get married during vacation, you’re still married when you return home and all the fun is over.
Getting married in another state or in another country, remains valid no matter where your home is. But like any betrothed couple, you need to know what you’re getting into. If you’re on vacation with your partner and decide to tie the knot, be sure it’s something you both really want to do. If you meet someone while on vacation and decide to marry before really getting a chance to know each other, this can be a problem. Before any partnership becomes legal and binding with a marriage license, check out these ten tips to ensure you are not making a mistake.
1. Respect. This comes first and foremost in any relationship. Does your potential spouse respect you? Partners, who bad mouth each other to their friends or acquaintances, have no respect for each other. Partners need to be appreciated and respected.
2. Pay attention. Do you pay attention to each other? When one partner allows the mind to wander while one is speaking, or is constantly interrupting, this is not listening. You have to listen to one another as a part of communication.
3. Being right. No one loves a know-it-all. Someone who has to be right all the time or have the last word is not an easy person to live with. Everyone makes mistakes once in a while and people should admit when they don’t know all the answers. There’s nothing wrong with it, it’s only human.
4. Following through. When you say you’re going to do something, then do it. Actions speak louder than words and no one wants to be around somebody who is all talk. If you talk the talk, then walk the walk, or step out of the way. When you follow through on what you say you’re going to do, then your partner would be able to trust you and believe in you more.
5. Sexual intimacy. Losing interest in sex can kill a marriage quickly. If you’re not interested in sex before marriage, you won’t be interested in sex after getting married. When spouses are denied sex from their partners, they become most likely to roam and quench their thirst somewhere else.
6. Teasing. Teasing is okay in moderation or during play, but when the teasing becomes consistent and hurtful, it’s time to stop. If your partner teases you by saying hurtful things to you and then tells you that you don’t have a sense of humor or tells you that you’re too sensitive, that’s a red light. When something hurts, it hurts. When you tell your partner to stop, they should stop, if not, it’s time to reconsider your relationship.
7. Lying. No healthy relationship should harbor lies and deceit. Any dishonesty can create a lack of trust in your relationship and all relationships should be built on trust. If your partner truly loves you, they would not lie to you or keep any secrets from you.
8. Hygiene. When couples come together in very intimate moments and share themselves with each other, they make themselves wanted by having good hygiene. Taking baths or showers on a regular basis, washing and maintaining healthy hair and shaving and cleaning all of the important parts of the body is good hygiene. Brushing your teeth on a regular basis and using mouthwash welcomes intimate kisses and closeness. Partners, who hardly bathe, don’t brush their teeth or pick there nose as a past time, should be reconsidered. What can seem cute or bearable now won’t be a few years from now after the two of you marry and have a few kids together. Never try to change a person to suit your needs; it won’t happen, no matter how much you want it to.
10. Anger. Having outbursts of anger or temper a tantrum is not something you want to live with. Everyone gets angry, but if your partner is the type of person who is easily set off and gets destructive, they can also become violent.